Many people share the experience that masturbation felt so good until learning the contradiction. Increase the speed as you get closer to climaxing. A variation of this position is to bring your knees close to your chest. If you can learn to stop when inside a toy, you'll have an easier time exercising control when you're inside your partner. Not being able to get her off orally has been a very frustrating, but reading this helped me find Waldo!
All-four-for-one and one-for-all
The key is trying them all out and then figuring out which ones you enjoy the most. From IUDs and implants to condoms and diaphragms, each contraceptive has its pros and cons.